Our gut

is usually right.

I don't want to harp on this but I think you need to understand.

I went to Janets one day this past winter and there was a newer SUV in Janet's driveway.

"Who's car is that?"

"Oh, that's Hubert's."

"Oh...what did he do with his old car?" (It was a clunker)

"He is trying to sell it."

I let it go at that.

She let it slip out today that she had bought Hubert that SUV and he was supposed to pay her back.

It wasn't ever gonna happen.

It's her money she can do with it what she wants.

He was a slimeball.

Period.

I mean if that's the kind of guy he wanted to be then fine, be that kind of guy.

It was his life.

If they wanted to have fun together?

Then fine go have some fun. 

Why should I care?

My point is, when she called and said that he had passed I had second thoughts as to what kind of person Hubert was.

Not any more.

The day I left her house and he had that gleam in his eyes when he was asking me about the truck and if it was in good shape?

That day?

15 minutes later driving down the road and I had that sinking feeling in my gut that something wasn't right about that whole situation?

My gut was right that day.

Thats my point I am trying to make.

It's taken 49 years.

But I've learned to listen.

She should be relieved it didn't ever get any worse than it did.

I love Janet.

But I do not want to listen to her moan and groan about being out the money for this vehicle.

Funny she didn't ask me what I thought she should do.

She knows what I would have told her.

She knows what her mom and or my dad or my mom or AL would have done.

She didn't wanna hear it.

I was honestly doing what I could to not put her out any more than I needed to as Hubert was living with her (more water, utilities, etc) and she bought him this?

Seriously, skipping showers, etc.

Sorry if you think that's gross but in the winter and the only person I am going to be around is Chad a lil deodorant, brush your teeth, new socks and boxers, hey I'm good to go lol.

(Trust me when I tell you I understand that's a different scenario when you're married to someone and sharing the same bed lol)

Whatever.

I don't ask her for anything other than a place to sleep, take a shower and use the restroom.

If she ever offers anything I will gladly take it from her and be thankful for it.

Better for me and Nicholas to end up with what she wants to give than these low life scumbags she seems to attract to her life.

She takes better care of them that she does us.

It's the truth.

Now she isn't going too have many friends.

These people alienate you from everybody else.

They know how they are.

They don't want to be around others for too long.

They know they will be exposed.

Now she will have the uphill battle of trying to get back in the good graces of the friends she alienated herself from in order to be with him.

Good luck with that.

People who only want you around them and no one else should send off huge red flags.

We're never too old to learn.

Love you.